tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8208174559469742750.post5709044238804232511..comments2023-03-21T07:42:51.807-07:00Comments on After the fire, the fire still burns: Dreaming of himPhoenixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02772907437207569339noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8208174559469742750.post-7753129249788879362012-01-27T23:32:24.055-08:002012-01-27T23:32:24.055-08:00Oops--I guess I don't have your e-mail address...Oops--I guess I don't have your e-mail address. If you'd like to e-mail, you can at phoenix.after.the.fire@gmail.comPhoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02772907437207569339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8208174559469742750.post-57108292787086179442012-01-27T23:29:15.292-08:002012-01-27T23:29:15.292-08:00It's a strange thing, how many of this have th...It's a strange thing, how many of this have this story, and yet we feel so alone. I know another lady who lost a true love, and could not tell anyone all of how she felt about losing her friend. Another woman who was a friend of my sweetie, and whom I was the one to tell, confided to me that she had been in love with him, but never told him. I reached out to her, but I think it was too hard, because I had had what she had wanted, and we drifted apart pretty quickly. I am sorry you lost your soul mate. I'm going to send you an e-mail, if you want to talk privately. I really think that I would not have made it this far without the understanding and support of other widows. It's a hard thing to do alone. Even 5 1/2 years out now, I still appreciate knowing that I can rely on other widows when it just gets to be too much again.Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02772907437207569339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8208174559469742750.post-22386087473985555692012-01-27T23:21:51.177-08:002012-01-27T23:21:51.177-08:00About me--I had to delete your comment and repost ...About me--I had to delete your comment and repost it under my own name, as Blogger will not let me remove your website alone: <br /><br /><br />I will soon face the third year of my soul mate being gone. He committed suicide after he found out his wife had cheated on him. I was the love of his life he never told her about...the one he met before her and rebounded from. My husband knew about our ongoing relationship, though we didn't see each other in the 9 years he was married. We never "cheated" technically while married, but we had a daily interaction for years...shared the world with each other. He was my best friend and soulmate and vice versa. I've dealt with my horrible loss for three years...barely able to discuss it because no one knew about him besides my husband. His wife ended up being the one to call and tell me he'd killed himself. She had no idea I existed (well she knew years before that I existed...he just never could tell her how I existed to him after that). My grief is unbelievable still. Reading your story gave me chills. I was an atheist my entire life...I've found his death has required me to reconsider that just because the thought of never being with him again, ever, makes me so sad I can barely breath. I'd like to extend a hand of friendship and understanding to you. I feel completely isolated in this daily struggle with my grief. I had no idea there was anyone out there who could understand what I feel. Thank you!!! Please don't publish a link to my website with this comment...thanks.Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02772907437207569339noreply@blogger.com